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Published: Nov 06, 2012 06:00 PM
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‘Mr. Mom’ not as easy as it looks
Sean O'Brien

 
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There is a country song by a band called Lonestar titled “Mr. Mom.”

The song begins about a dad who has started staying at home for a few weeks after being laid off from his job. Since he is unemployed, his wife goes to work full time while he stays at home as “Mr. Mom.”

He initially thought there would be “nothing to it” and that he could sleep in late and take long naps, but after rewinding Barney for the 18th time and having to continuously move the crayons up “one drawer higher,” he begins asking himself “how does she do this?”.

After weeks of my wife verbalizing her need to have a break, we were finally able to work out one day a week where I got to be “Mr. Mom.”

Before my wife headed out for the morning, I woke up with the babies, fed them, changed them and thought I was off to a good start. Within an hour of her absence, I found myself thinking, “this isn’t so bad” and “I could do this.”

However, the next three hours seemed more like 20.

See, there is this things that babies need a lot of -- they are called naps -- and the more time that goes by since the baby has last slept, the more rambunctious they become.

I have come to find out that our three babies (all under the age of 2) all like to do this thing called “crying”-- especially, when it has been a while since they have last napped. When they cry, my stress level increases about 50 percent and I find myself doing all kinds of crazy, goofy things trying to get them to stop.

However, when all three are crying and they don’t seem to be responding to my diligent efforts to console them, I feel myself moments away from joining them in their “crying chorus”. When my wife finally walks through the door, she finds me nearly at my breaking point, all the babies in tears, toys all over the house, spit-up all over the floor and dirty diapers scattered throughout.

My wife grew up dreaming of the day that she could be a supportive wife, loving mother and diligent homemaker. She was raised to view such a role as one of necessity worthy of honor. After I spend four hours a week just trying to keep our children alive and our house from not being totally destroyed, I am amazed at her work and find myself asking, “how does she do this?”.

Sean O’Brien is the preacher for the Durham church of Christ and can be reached at email@durhamchurchofchrist.org..
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